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Urbanthreshold: Boys vs Men. Girls vs Ladies


    Unlike some other promoters, Urban Threshold Enterprises Inc gives back to the community. Our motto is “Dare to reach your hand into the DARKNESS to pull another into the LIGHT!”

    I worked on Wall Street as a stockbroker for over 20 years and traveled the world by the age of 25, but yet I remain a STUDENT OF LIFE. My dad taught me to get an education, however he told me to remember that the wisdom of this world is foolishness with God. So always put God first.

    My dad had just an 8th grade education, but he worked hard, took care of his family and taught me what being a MAN is all about. A year ago I saw a statistic which stated that 68% of Black babies are born out of wedlock and 72% of Black households are headed by single mothers. This is a serious problem. There are too many baby showers and not enough wedding invites out here.

    Therefore I created an organization called “The Water Your Seeds Foundation.” The Water Your Seeds Foundation is a mentorship program geared towards helping young Black and Hispanic dads be better fathers to their children and it is designed to steer the youth away from joining gangs.

    Many young men in the hood who lack paternal guidance seek to validate their manhood and give significance to their existence by joining gangs. Everybody wants to belong to something or want to have a sense of “family” and that’s one reason why so many of our youth join gangs.

    A young boy needs a responsible man to show him what being a man is all about. It’s sad that 72% of homes in the hood have no father there. A LION will not leave his LIONESS and their LION CUB in the wilderness ALONE to fend for themselves. (Can’t Say The Same For Some Brothers)

    I Can’t understand how a dude can Floss, Pop Bottles, Buy New Whips and Gear, Party in Miami and Vegas, but not take care of his kids.. SMH

    What’s gangster? It’s taking care of your kids, protecting your neighborhood, staying out of jail and working to provide a future for your family. That’s Gangster!

    I was recently watching “Good Times” and if there were more fathers like James Evans in the hood, there would be less gang enrollment. Marriage and family are essential to the survival of any people and any nation. Just because you got several women pregnant, that doesn’t make you a man. WE need to get that “PLAYER” mentality out of our systems. One of the most important things a man can do for his children is respect their mother.

    Fellas, Don’t make her FALL for you if you’re not there to CATCH her..

    Fellas, Don’t make her a MOTHER if you are not prepared to make her your WIFE.


    A lot of these rap songs on commercial radio exemplify and represent the characterization of “Boys”and not “Men.”

    There’s a lot of guys running around proclaiming that they’re men when in fact they are just males with a “Boy’s Mentality.”

    Hence, for edification and understanding, I created the “Boys Vs Men” Initiative to teach young men and women what being a Real Man is all about.

    Honesty, Integrity, Dignity, Respect, Humility, Honor, Responsibility and Goodwill are essential elements for being a REAL MAN.

    “The greatness of a man is not in how much wealth he acquires, but in his integrity and his ability to affect those around him positively” – Bob Marley


    *Ladies: Boys play with your mind. Men Explore it. *Boys drop names.. Men drop KNOWLEDGE.. *Boys Flaunt their “Wealth..” Men Flaunt their VISION. *Boys live for now. Men Plan ahead. *Boys seek Popularity, Men Demand RESPECT And Know How To Give It!… *Boys play House, MEN BUILD HOMES. *Boys Shack Up, MEN GET MARRIED.. *Boys make babies and disappear. Men raise children and teach them to persevere. *Boys Like To Spend Time With Their Boys. Men appreciate the time they spend with their family. *Boys lay blame on others. Men admit their faults and own up to them. *Boys avoid responsibilty. Men emabrace it.

    *Boys Make Excuses And Hesitate. Men Make Plans And Activate.

    *Boys make decisions blindly. Men weigh their options and calculate their movements. *Boys lack self control and operate in haste. Men possess faith and exercise patience. *Boys manipulate, steal and take from the community. Real Men respect, love and give back to the community. *Boys throw up their hands and flee from their problems. Men roll up their sleeves, stick out their chest and handle their problems. *Boys are easily distracted. Men usually stay focused. *Boys do what they want to do. Men do what they have to do. *Boys base their strength on the “Power” of money. Men base their strength on their faith in God. *Boys are more concerned with the fullness of their reputation. Men are more concerned with the depth of their   character. *Boys Invent Excuses For Failure. Men Produce Strategies For Success. *Boys are indecisive. Men are determined and know what they want. *Boys are insecure and filled with envy. Men are confident and self assured. *Boys can’t control their emotions and are quick to fight. Real men have the fortitude and inner strength to walk away from an argument or minor altercation before it escalates into violence. *Boys are full of drama. Real Men AVOID DRAMA, not because they can’t handle it, but because they just don’t have time for the BULLSH*T. *Boys equate “Self Worth” with “Net worth” and their self esteem fluctuates with the balance of their bank accounts. Real Men know that The Road to Victory and Success is paved with humble submission to the Most High! *Boys are manipulative, evasive and keep secrets. Men are honest, direct and forthright. *A real man knows how to control his emotions. A boy lets his emotions control him. *A boy will tell you what you want to hear. A man will tell you what he has to say *Boys hit women. Real Men would not dare raise their hands to strike a lady. *A boy only focuses on a woman’s exterior. A man respects and appreciates a woman’s beauty both inside and out. *A boy will use his child as a pawn during a break up. A real man will always look out for the best interests of the child despite separating from the child’s mother. *A Boy holds GRUDGES.. A Man FORGIVES.. *Boys run in gangs: Men organize teams. *A Man has the COURAGE to stand alone. A boy needs his crew to validate him. *Men Lead. Boys Follow. *REAL MEN make sacrifices for their dreams without bargaining their soul. Boys will sell their soul and their dignity for ill gotten riches. *Real Men are LEGACY DRIVEN. A legacy is something you leave behind that will benefit others-perhaps those yet unborn. *Real Men understand that It’s not what you accept but it’s what you turn down that shows character.. *Real Men practice due diligence and humility to ensure that their lives and the lives of their family will be prosperous and purposeful. *A Real man has class and is not ashamed to hold open a door for a lady, pull out a chair for a lady or remove his hat when he enters her home. *The bottom line is that it takes a “Good Man” to attract a “Good Woman..” *A dude with a “Boy’s” mentality puts so much emphasis on the power of money in order to compensate for the bankruptcy of his soul.. *A “BOY” with MONEY is no match against a MAN on a MISSION. *A dude with a “boy’s” mentality always ruins an apology with an excuse.. *A dude with a “Boy’s” mentality thinks that Sex is the answer to every problem in a relationship. *Too many fellas risk losing a “Diamond” at home by playing with pebbles at the roadside.

    *Sadly, over the years many POPULAR YOUNG PLAYERS have morphed into LONELY OLD MEN..

    FOR THE LADIES *Ladies forget about chasing a so called “SHOT CALLER” and try to attract a MAN who “CALLS ON GOD” for guidance.. *Ladies, Why have unprotected sex with a man who is not your fiance or husband? The risk of an unwanted pregnancy or an STD is very high. You must use more caution and discretion. *Ladies: Don’t speak negatively about your child’s father around the child, even if the father is a so called “deadbeat.” It only makes the situation worse and it does nothing to contribute positively to the growth of the child. *Drama begets Drama. No real man appreciates a woman who is full of “Drama..” *Too many women have fallen for “boys” disguised as “men,” when in fact the signs were there right from the beginning that he was just a BOY. *Some women say that want a man who is ambitious and a go getter, but when they find such a man, they want him to stay home more… And Vice Versa. *It’s wise for men and women to write out their own individual and realistic list of qualities that they seek in an ideal mate. This information should be discussed early on in a budding relationship. *Additionally, Women who call their boyfriends “HUBBY” and they are not even engaged or married to them are playing themselves. and vice versa. *Don’t give a guy “Husband Privileges” if he has not made a determined effort to put a ring on your finger. *It’s crazy how some women view “GOOD MEN” as friendship material and “WANNA BE THUGS” as marriage material.. *A superficial woman thinks that a dude who possesses Money, Clothes, Cars and Status equates to him being a “GOOD MAN..” *To some women, being ambitious means going to grad school, working hard and getting an executive position while to others it means hooking up with as many ballers as they can. *An established Michelle took a chance on Barack when he was an intern with no car and little money. Unfortunately, Some women would have passed on him. *Sadly, Some women have SUPERFICIAL standards that are so high that not even Jesus can live up to them… SMH *How you gonna INSIST that your future mate MUST have a “Gold Card” or a “Black Card,” when all you have is an “EBT Card.” *Equally Important, Women who are too easy and don’t put up a challenge are usually not taken seriously by men. *Ladies, don’t act and dress like a whore and expect to be approached like you’re a PRINCESS. *It’s a sad state of affairs when a woman believes that her ONLY ASSET is her ability to shake her behind and Twerk. *BEAUTY without INTELLIGENCE is like a MASTERPIECE painted on a NAPKIN. *A pretty face is nothing if you have an ugly heart. *There’s nothing more sexier than a woman who is Intelligent, Wholesome, Discreet, Modest, Pure Hearted, Responsible, Humble and God Fearing. *Nothing is more beautiful than a down to earth lady who doesn’t pretend to be something she’s not and who doesn’t let a man define who she is. *”To all the women who think they’re fat because they’re not a size zero. You’re the beautiful ones; it’s society who’s ugly” – Marilyn Monroe *Ladies, the important thing is not what people think about you, but it’s what you think about yourself that really counts. *Our self perception is what dictates our behaviors. *What you think about yourself often dictates how you interact with and treat others.. *Moreover, it’s wonderful when two great people find each other and find love. *A good woman understands and respects her role in a relationship.*A good woman can inspire her man to feel like he can conquer the world. And vice versa.. *Ladies: Find someone who says that he loves you EVERY NIGHT but proves it EVERY DAY. *Sometimes we can be so much in love with the idea of being in love that we don’t even realize that we maybe sleeping with the enemy. *Ladies, sometimes the person who you would take a BULLET for is the same person behind the TRIGGER.. *If you spend most of your time in a relationship lonely, crying and depressed, then you’re better off being single. That’s not a relationship. That’s bondage. *Don’t stay trapped in any relationship or any job where there is cruelty, dominance, inequity or indifference. Sometimes the things that we are holding on to are the exact things that are holding us back. *Find someone who is worth your tears, worth your laughter, worth your heart and who loves you as much as you love him.. *Also don’t lose your sense of identity in a relationship. Some women revolve their entire lives around their boyfriends and sacrifice their own personal interests, hobbies, passions, etc for the sake of the relationship. *”Ladies, don’t be easy, be WORTH IT… If they really want you, they will accept the challenge.” – Iceberg Slim *A woman who is worth it will never be easy to get. And a Real Man will acknowledge her worth and always be patient. *Ladies, Be the ONE Who Everyone Wants…Not the One Who Everyone’s HAD.. *Instead of spending your time CHASING a “BOY” FRIEND, enhance your better qualities to ATTRACT a HUSBAND. *Strive to be virtuous. Virtuous women are rare. “Who can find a virtuous woman? for her (Worth) is far above rubies.” (Prov 31:10)*The Bottom line is that it takes a “Good Woman” to attract a “Good Man” and vice versa. *Sometimes the best relationships are the ones you didn’t expect to be in; the ones you never saw coming. *Constantly comparing your old relationship to your new one is the quickest way to find yourself single again. *Let your past make you “BETTER” and not “BITTER.” Let your past highs and lows strengthen you as a person. *You’ve been BROKE but not BROKEN. You’ve been HURT but not Destroyed.*You can never win in the future if you’re still holding on to losses from the past. *Don’t live a life of “What If’s..” Too often we allow our trepidation to cause us to let good opportunities and good people slip out of our lives. *At the end of the day, people just want to be appreciated, respected and acknowledged whether it is on the job or in a relationship. *The best Love is the one that makes you a better person without changing you into someone other than yourself. *Everyone you meet comes with LUGGAGE.. Just find someone who loves you enough to help you UNPACK.. *”And To The Young Ladies: Keep Your Head Up, Legs Closed and Eyes Open” – Tupac Shakur

    *Finally, always remember that the best things in life are FREE like: hugs, smiles, friends, kisses, family, love, laughter, sleep, and good memories.

    Be on the look out for more information about The Water Your Seeds Foundation. (Music is Life. But Family is love.)

    Written By Jesse Atkinson, CEO of Urban Threshold Inc. and Founder of The A&R Power Summit and The Underground Music Awards